The mystique of a sexy woman is in the way she walks, holds her head, and smiles. You will notice there was no mention of long legs, flowing blond hair, or bleached teeth. A man’s attraction to a woman is not just in her appearance, but the self-image that stands behind her actions. The body is one of your most potent methods of communication while on a date. The way you grace a sidewalk speaks a thousand words about your passion, faith, and values. It may not describe them with any great detail, but it will tell enough of the story to make a man want to find out more. Here are a few tips to improve your dating allure from the inside-out.
Mirror-Mirror on the Wall…
When a mirror becomes your enemy, so does the person standing in front of it. You may avoid looking at your reflection because it reminds you of the things you dislike about yourself. However, what you are really doing is fostering a negative impression. A poor self-image is difficult to hide. A man will pick up on the fact that you don’t completely like yourself, and have a hard time liking you either. Instead, I recommend this simple exercise. Try standing in front of a full mirror and looking deep within yourself. Don’t focus on any specific weakness, but rather the entire picture. Practice seeing yourself the way a good friend or loved one would. By the end of the week, it should no longer be difficult to look, because you will have finally made friends with the woman within.
Miss B. Yutiful
Self haters feel ugly and disliked, bringing that very image to life through the magic of their own will. Motivational speakers talk a lot about the power of one’s mindset. If you perceive yourself as a beautiful person, others will see it too. The problem you may have, is finding a way to see that side, when you’ve been dragging your image through cow patties for the past couple years. I recommend you try this exercise. Close your eyes, and think back to a moment when you were the happiest you’ve ever been. Take notice of the image you created. This is the positive you. This is the person you should take out with you on every date. Now open your eyes, and try to maintain this image as you go about your day. If you start slipping back into the old, just excuse yourself, and find a quiet spot to reconnect with your positive half.
Closet Approach
Another method to improve your self-image is to slip into an outfit that makes you feel fantastic. Clothes can’t change who you are, but they can change the way you perceive yourself. This is why it is important to take extra care when picking out an outfit for a first date. You want to ensure that you are meeting your expectation of what an alluring woman should look like. You’ve probably seen the glow that comes after a woman has gone through a $15,000 makeover on television. While her pearly veneers may make her smile bright, and her boob job may add some ‘perk’ to her step; the real difference is within her renewed image of herself. It doesn’t take a lot of money to create an improved self-image, when you’ve got a credit card, good friends, and retail stylist who knows their way around a fashion boutique.
Motivation to Give and Accept Love
Men are drawn to happiness, so an alluring woman must be content within herself. Some women find the motivation to be joyful through their achievements in life. This so-called motivating factor can be self-defeating, because the mind has a way of coming up with reasons why you shouldn’t be happy. Researchers claim that what makes you most felicitous is the quality of your relationships (friends, family, etc.), and not the quality of your life (career, net worth, etc.). If you’ve labored under the belief that your ability to find love, rests on the accomplishments that have made you deserving of it; perhaps it is time to envision a dating approach where your success is more dependent on giving love, than proving yourself worthy of it.
Successful dating is not just about loving yourself. It is about learning how to love through the direction of others. You will never know your potential for love, until you discover a partner who will demonstrate just how much love you truly deserve!