There is not much left in this world that could be considered “old fashioned.” And this is precisely why you should be using the old-fashioned methods to finding love. While it is true that you can find love on your computer, or through your phone’s app–wouldn’t it be great to have a love story that began with, “I was walking down the street,” rather than, “I was reading my weekly inbox chat invitations”?
I think so too. Here are seven tips to finding love the old fashioned way.
Tip #1: Be Easy Going
Subconsciously, most men look at a potential partner’s demeanor as being easy going. Men prefer a woman who can roll with the punches, meaning eating a vanilla ice cream when all the chocolate is gone, or going to the new Vin Diesel flick when all the Hugh Grant tickets are sold out. Take a good, hard look at the impression you leave with the world, and ask yourself if you are relatively easy to hang out with. No matter how beautiful you are, if you appear high maintenance, it will effect the overall interest level of the men you come across every day.
Tip #2: Ask Questions
Men are the most interested in the women who are interested in them. When you meet an interesting man for the first time, focus on asking him questions, rather then impressing him with interesting answers. An average woman is more appealing then an above average one, as long as she shows an authentic interest in a potential suitor.
Tip #3: Moderately Difficult to Get
Countless studies have shown that keeping your interest level somewhat a mystery, promotes more interest in men, then either laying out all your cards or none at all. Men like women who show interest, but they like them even more when there is a question as to how much interest is really there. Be available, but don’t be overly attentive, and you’ll find yourself much more successful with piquing the interest of men.
Tip #4: Easy on the Hate/Love Language
Both, hate and love, are very strong emotions, and they create powerful responses in most men. Studies show that women are more cautious of men who use the word, love, too often, while men are particularly turned off by the word, hate. If you want to keep interest high on the men you run across, stay away from the love/hate language barrier.
Tip #5: Break Out of Your Comfort Zone
It is common to have things you like and things you don’t, but when it comes to piquing interest, most men are drawn to women who have adventurous spirits. In other words, if you are not a big outdoors person, it will be to your advantage to be open to these types of adventures. It doesn’t mean you have to act the part of something you’re not, but show that you are game for new experience. In a man’s mind, just because you didn’t like something in the past, doesn’t mean you won’t like it now (with him).
Tip #6: Teach Him Something New
Research shows that one of the most powerful drives in life, is the pursuit of learning. When you run into a potential suitor, don’t be afraid to casually introduce some interesting facts into the conversation. Studies show this can pique a man’s interest to get to know you better. This is one of the reasons why so many woman develop a crush on their teacher at some point in their youth.
Tip #7: Be Mysterious
When it comes to living a good life, we know that sometimes less is more. The more information you give out about yourself to a man early on, the more likely he will find things about you that he doesn’t like. You may want a man to know everything about you to ensure there is sufficient chemistry, but it is better to let things unfold slowly. This will allow him to enjoy the discovery of unfolding your character a little bit at a time.
Bottom line: The old fashioned method of finding love involves putting a positive spin on the opportunities that are all around you. As much as you may want to find a good man, don’t be too anxious, considering that the greatest prizes in love really do come to those who wait. But at the same time, don’t play it too cool when an opportunity presents itself, as every ‘perfect’ love story will most always require some effort on your part.