Tell the truth, ladies, how many of you have asked a guy about his favorite band or favorite color, because you were too afraid to come right out and ask him what you really wanted (needed) to know? It is a good thing for you that statistics show that most guy’s gets tired of answering the same-old questions, and they can actually lose interest in a woman who continues to ask them.
So, how can you find out about a guy’s values, interests, and intentions, without putting him into a corner or losing his interest? Well, we know of at least ten ways.
Question 1: What about me first caught your attention (assuming he approached you first)?
This is a straight-forward question that will give the sincere/good guy the opportunity to shine, and the insincere/bad one the invitation to bumble through his typical answers, and end up looking like a jerk (or worse, a player).
Question 2: What is something most women don’t understand about men?
This will give you a hint of any past problems a guy has had in his relationships, as well as any unrealistic expectations or demands he tends to place on women.
Question 3: What is the most exciting thing you bought this year?
Fights about finance are a big deal breaker in all relationships. If you have a certain style of saving or spending money, it is probably a good idea to make sure that a guy can hang with that. Frugal partners don’t get along with spendthrifts, and vice versa.
Question 4: What does it take to achieve a good relationship?
In other words, what are his values, goals, and interests in maintaining a close, intimate relationship? This question may give you a hint as to a guy’s level of maturity, and what you can expect from a long-term relationship with him.
Question 5: If a relationship didn’t work out, how would you end it?
This will tell you how much he is willing to invest in a partnership. Guys who are in it just for fun, don’t think about ending a relationship, because they really have no plan of getting into one in the first place.
Question 6: What is your most embarrassing moment?
Studies show that humor is essential in every relationship. He doesn’t have to be a comedian, but it is important that he can at least laugh at himself when the moment calls for it.
Question 7: What do you think is the best thing about being single?
In other words, how ready is he to get off the market? It’s great to be content in bachelorhood, but if he gushes over his lifestyle too much, he may not be willing to give it up.
Question 8: What is your idea of the perfect first date?
Few questions can really get to the heart of romance more than this one. If you’re wondering if he is a ‘flowers and candlelight’ type of guy, this could be your first hint.
Question 9: Does your family live nearby? How often do you get to see them?
Some partners are the family-type, and others aren’t. Rarely will a couple fit together, unless they both have similar ideas about what a family is. If you love your family, and want your partner to love them too; make sure he is the ‘family type of guy’.
Question 10: Can we change our date for a different day?
Easy going guys are the best type to have, especially for the women with kids (or planning to have them someday). It is important to know that a guy can roll with the punches, or in this case, that he can roll with a change of plans, which is frequently necessary when you have more than just one person to satisfy.
Make the most of every conversation with a guy by using one or two of these simple and interesting ‘get to know him better’ questions.