Every couple worries about their health, finances, sex life, kids, and own happiness. Unfortunately, one of the worst symptoms of a troubled relationship, is when everything appears to be fine, when it isn’t. Studies show that a dwindling sex life may just be a part of going from a passionate to a more compassionate relationship. However, just because it happens to most everyone, doesn’t mean that you have to accept it.
One of the worst results of problems in the bedroom are feeling resentment and blame. In fact, studies suggest that out of the partners who are currently unhappy, many believe that things could be better… if their lover would just try harder.
So what can we conclude from this? Well, we know that sex drops off as a relationship matures, and some couples are okay with it, and others are not. What you have to ask yourself is, if you had the opportunity to make things better in your relationship, would you do it? Here are 13 ways to have more fun in bed, which may also translate to more fun outside of the bedroom.
- Whisper Sweet Nothings– The sensation of a warm breeze passing through the ear is erotic; not to mention when those gentle gusts bring the sweet sound of love, appreciation, and romance. A whisper is the perfect way to draw your lover near you, while increasing the sense of intimacy.
- Experiment with Touch– Relationships are built on experimenting with what makes each other feel good. Touch is a very big part of that. Whether you prefer it soft, hard, gentle, or demanding; there is a time and place for most all degrees of tactile sensation, so pay attention and mix it up.
- Get Out of Bed– Take your sexy time to the stairs, up against a wall, in the living room, or on a chair or table? If you have never experienced sex in any of these places, just the change in atmosphere will make it that much more exciting.
- Take it Slow– Slow sex is good sex, so don’t rush it.
- Then again, Fast Sex is Good Too– When short on time, keep in mind that a quickie can really deliver.
- A Little Rough– Passion is an intense emotion that sometimes craves a little intensity in action. Pulling hair, gentle biting, and light scratching can all lead to a “Wow” in the sack.
- Try it Kinky– Kinky can be fun. All you need are some blindfolds, light restraints, and maybe a wooden spoon for spanking. These are all fairly safe activities, even if your subconscious is telling you that you’re not that kind of girl. Just agree on a safe word, which will signal to your partner when you’re not enjoying something.
- Share Your Fantasies– Even if you don’t necessarily want to turn a particular fantasy into reality, it can be hot to talk about it before or during sex.
- Try Something New– Do some research and come up with a few ideas that you would like to experiment with in bed. Or, what about one of those Kama Sutra positions that you’ve always wanted to try, but were afraid to ask? Yeah, do one of those!
- Enact a Fantasy– Don’t talk yourself out of asking for something that you really want. Whether it is taboo, dirty, or just new; experiencing a fantasy in the flesh may be just what you and your partner needs to turn up the heat.
- Go Toy Shopping Together– Start off at a nice, upper-end sex/sensuality shop. Make an adventure of it. If you are not sure about what to get; don’t be bashful, and ask for assistance. Many sex shop sales associates bring their work home with them, and are not afraid to share their opinions.
- Do Your Shopping Online– “Brown box” shopping works great if you are too shy, or don’t have a brick-and-mortar sex shop in your area. A few places to start with are Sex Toys from Babeland and Good Vibrations.
- Don’t Take Sex So Seriously– Sometimes fun sex, can be kind of funny sex. Let go; be yourself, make mistakes, laugh it off, and then keep going. Sex is best when there are no specific goal attached to it. This means no worrying about things like time, body image, and your (or their) orgasm. Sex is most fun when you allow it to happen in a relaxed atmosphere.