It can be a lonely world for a woman who doesn’t know how to flirt the right way. But to be completely honest, there are lots of different ways to flirt successfully, but not every technique is going to work along with your comfort level. Today, we are going to show you six easy flirting techniques that any woman can do, and the best part is – it won’t make you appear desperate or creepy.
Here’s what you need to do:
Get One Foot in the Door
An easy way to encourage any situation to your advantage is to get one foot in the door. And when it comes to communication, that refers to getting a guy to invest in your relationship before you even have one. To accomplish this, what you need to do is ask a simple question. The psychology behind this is when a man puts forth some effort to answer a request, he is making an investment in you. And as small as it may seem, it counts within his mind and he will become more receptive to just about anything else you suggest after that. So, if you wanted to invite him to coffee without feeling awkward, ask him a small question first (“where’s the best coffee shop in town?”), get him to make that initial investment, and then ask him for the bigger request (getting coffee with you, etc.). By doing it this way you are creating a natural progression of getting to know each other, while also encouraging him to be more open to a first date.
Use Nervousness to Your Advantage
The word in the dating circles is that it is best to flirt smooth and cool. However, in the real world, men are flattered by a woman who shows some obvious interest. The problem is, most men don’t pick up on a woman’s flirting techniques as quickly as we’d like, so when you think you’re being obvious, he may think he stands no chance. Part of the reason this happens is when a woman flirts while trying to hide her nervousness, that effort to mask her feelings comes across as holding back, which is another word for ‘rejection’ to most men. It’s okay to be a little nervous (not smooth) when you flirt because it is a compliment to any guy that you care enough to want to make a good first impression.
Offer Clear Incentive
Every action in a man’s life is persuaded by some sort of incentive, whether it is confidence, happiness or sex. In the dating world, this is no different. The idea here is to offer a flirt that gives a man some sort of incentive to follow through with greater interest. For instance, you can offer up a chance to try the best sushi in town. He then understands what you bring to the plate and he doesn’t have to guess. By making your intentions clear, you can bypass any misleading impression, such as that you’re inviting him to your bed. He knows exactly what you’re offering in exchange for his company, and as long as he feels somewhat of a connection he will have no reason to turn you down. In fact, you have almost a 33% chance to successfully asking any guy on a date ‘before’ using any of these techniques, which gives you some very good odds.
Build Commonality
The easiest way to make the smallest flirt appear that much bigger is to use commonality. This is when a guy sees your chance meeting as a green flag that you have something in common. It could be living in the same apartment, working in the same office building, going to the same church, or even shopping at the same grocery store. The idea is to point out that you two already have something in common, as it will offer a slight connection that will encourage him to open up and want to get to know you better.
Let Your Interest Grow Along With His
One of the biggest mistakes you can make with flirting is giving too much away. At the same time, you don’t want to play it too cold either, because ‘hard to get’ doesn’t work as well as it used to. You can go a little out of your way to make his acquaintance, so long as you allow your interest to grow as you learn more about him. This gives a man a chance to feel curious about you, and then as his trust grows, he will appreciate the fact that your interest appears to be growing too. In short, rather than appearing as if you are flirting out of interest, consider it more of a curiosity.
Remember, First and Last Wins the Date
According to a man’s memory, the women who are most likely to be on his mind when he leaves a room, are both the first and last he had contact with. It is just the way the brain works. So, if you want to set yourself up to be on his mind later that evening, introduce yourself as you see him heading for the door.