The research suggests that men sleep around a lot more than women. But should you really care about the number of sexual partners your guy has had over his lifetime?
Well, let’s look over a few of the ‘numbers’ and see if we can’t come up with an answer.
First of All, Your Man Lies
Even though most surveys suggests that men have slept with more women over their lifetime, there is something seriously wrong when the women surveyed report a much lower number than the men. Okay, so just who are these men having sex with if it is not with us women? Okay, so you (and I) may have a few personal theories about this, but we’re not going to go there today. Instead, what the researchers suggest is that this discrepancy is a combination of the women not reporting their ‘true’ numbers and the men grossly inflating theirs. I imagine the reasoning for us women lying about our numbers can probably be best explained like this: “If I had sex with John, and nobody was around to hear – did it really happen?” No, you’d probably say to yourself – problem solved. But let’s get back to the point. I imagine the reasoning for that situation looking a little something like this: “If I had sex with John, and nobody was around to hear – did it really happen?” No, you’d probably say to yourself – problem solved. But let’s get back to the point. In the end, whatever number of women your man may have hinted he’s slept with, he is probably exaggerating a bit. So always take this into account.
The ‘Not So’ Magic Number: 10
Do you know what the magic number of sexual partners that we all crave to hear from a new partner? According to the scientists who have slaved over this question for weeks… it is 10. So, in other words, if he’s slept with only 6 women, he is too inexperienced (“dude, what are you doing down there”). And if he has slept with over 12, then he’s too experienced (“oh, that feels good, but I don’t even want to think about all those practice sessions”). But here is what I say… screw the numbers. You really can’t read the number of partners your partner has had in the same way you can count the number of rings on a tree trunk. These numbers do not necessarily tell you the entire story about a man, because a man can have many ‘lives’ within his lifetime. The magic number 10 is really not all that magic, in my opinion.
The Kiddie Pool Theory
There is a lot of fear behind sexual disease, and I think it is warranted. However, what I really hate to see is when people take these numbers and twist them into a disaster waiting to happen. I think that the best way to describe this is through my own patented ‘Kiddie Pool Theory’. Okay, so let’s say that your man really enjoys spending time in the pool. In fact, there are rumors ‘floating around’ that your guy has been in a good portion of pools in town, possibly even including your best friend’s (enough said). But this does not necessarily make him any more of a cesspool for sexual disease than the guy who has only slept with four women. Okay, so we can assume that by choosing to swim in piranha infested waters will increase your chance of being eaten by piranha. However, if your playboy happens to be the guy floating around in the kiddie pool wearing Sponge Bob arm floats, his chances of getting eaten are at least slightly less. So, despite how much ‘vagina’ your partner has seen, if they prefer the kiddie pool over the infested oceans, you can possibly forgo the full-on nuclear reactor suit every time your together (a rubber will do).
The Game of Numbers
A man’s numbers are only half the story. The other half resides in his character, values and of course, how he treats you, your friends, family and others. Not many women want to become just another number lost among a hoard of sexual escapades, but there is a lot more to your man than how many women he has slept with.
And that… at least for me – is how I see it.